How To Balance Yourself

Stephanie Lyn Life Coaching
4 min readJan 4, 2023

Ever feel that your wheel is spinning? That you are constantly taking care of work and your family, but it never feels like enough? It feels like we are failing somewhere, that there is a never-ending to-do list, and find that we don’t have a chance to do something for ourselves. How can we sit and read a book or take time to focus on our art or passion when we have other people who rely on us? It is easy to forget about ourselves when we are so focused on other people that we end up forgetting who we are. After a time, our whole world revolves around other people. We get to the point of realizing we don’t know what we enjoy for fun anymore. We know what fulfilled us 5 years ago, but we don’t know what fulfills us now. For many people, this is when they realize they have been filling that hole in themselves by giving and giving themselves to others.

So the question remains, how do we balance ourselves? How do we balance our time raising kids, taking care of our family, and finding time for our spouse? It is so easy to lose ourselves over the years. How do we rediscover ourselves as an individual?

We often look at this as a problem in time, that we don’t have time to do it all. But it is actually a problem of priorities. That we prioritize our work or our family over ourselves. Many would gape at the statement about prioritizing yourself over your kids, but putting yourself first every so often isn’t bad. Taking care of ourselves physically, mentally, and spiritually is important. When we are unbalanced, we can feel overwhelmed, stressed, tired, anxious, snappy, etc. It is being overburdened and not taking the time that you need to decompress and enjoy your life.

Finding Balance

So the first step to balancing yourself is to put yourself first. Carve out a little time for yourself every day, whether it is 5 minutes or an hour. You might think, “Well, I don’t have time to step away for 5 minutes.” Yes, you do. It may not feel like it; it may feel impossible and like there are more important things to do, but you can make time for yourself. The laundry can wait, let the dishes sit a little longer, or your spouse can deal with a toy-covered floor for a few more minutes. You are more than allowed to push another task to make time for yourself or even offload it to someone else. Having your spouse take care of…