How to Handle a Manipulative Person

Manipulation is such an important topic because most people do not know when they are being manipulated. When you begin to love yourself, you will be able to spot a manipulative person a mile away. One thing to keep in mind with manipulative people is they are usually very child-like. These are the people growing up who never learned about boundaries or how to respect boundaries. They learned to be relentless and if they keep pushing, people will cave and they will give them what they want.

They probably saw dynamics with their parents that were not healthy. Perhaps mom was a narcissist and manipulative and dad was codependent and a people pleaser. Maybe what they witnessed was when mom was being manipulative and dad gave her what she wanted. They learned over time how to use these tactics to control others and get what they wanted.

Manipulative people are extremely insecure and have very fragile egos, so when you say no, you are bruising their ego. They are very child-like and very competitive in life. Life is a game to them. It’s a matter of who’s winning, who’s losing, who’s in control and who has the power. They never seem to self reflect to ask themselves if this is fair, should I compromise.

They want what they want, when they want it.