How To Set Boundaries With Narcissistic Parents

Setting boundaries can be hard enough; setting boundaries with our parents can be even more so. Even in adulthood, we will often look to our parents as more authoritative than ourselves. There is still this hierarchy, and setting boundaries against our parents can be uncomfortable. If our parents are narcissists, it can feel impossible.

A narcissistic parent will often treat their children as a source of validation or as a projection of their insecurities. The children are extensions of the parent, to be poised and positioned as the parent wishes.

A narcissistic parent will put their own needs in front of everyone else’s, even their children’s. Because of this, it can be extremely difficult to establish and enforce boundaries. A narcissist will push against boundaries and be intrusive to get a response or validation that they are craving.

When you’re looking to set boundaries with a narcissistic parent, here are some tips to help you.

Be Mindful Of What You Say

It would be best if you thought about what to say and are very clear with your wording. Having a plan is key. The narcissist will try to twist your words around to confuse you and make them seem like the victim. When you speak, you will need to be clear and concise. Think and choose your words carefully.