Stop Comparing Your Current Relationship to Past Ones

So you’re in a new relationship and things are going well. But for some reason, your mind jumps to comparing your current partner with an ex partner. Comparing people here and there is common and sometimes something we do without even realizing. It becomes a problem when it happens over and over and starts to take over our thoughts and makes us question our true feelings for our partner.

So, how do you know if you are comparing your current partner with an ex partner? You probably don’t even realize it’s happening at first, other than subtle hints here or there.

• You are having exaggerated responses to small situations. The response doesn’t match the situation at all. This could mean that you are triggered and remembering something from a past relationship. Maybe you’re brought back to a past situation that was somewhat similar to what’s currently happening, and you are remembering the feeling attached to that situation and assuming it will be the same outcome.
• You have a list in your head of what you feel your partner should be/do and it’s filled with unrealistic expectations. You may be holding your partner to a higher standard based on your past with an ex.
• You often assume that your partner will respond or react a specific way before giving him/her a chance to show you…