The Addiction to Helping Others

If you’re an empath, codependent, or a caregiver, this is for you, so listen up. Are you a person who loves to find wounded people and heal them? Have you ever wondered why you choose wounded people and have the desire to try to fix them?

Part of the reason is the good in you. You see a broken person and can see who they are to their core. But you have to realize that not everything in life is meant for you to fix. Knowing the difference between when helping someone is a good thing and when helping someone is a bad thing is important.

Let’s take this back to your childhood to help explain why you want to fix others. If you are the person who likes to fix people and you are the person people call when they need help, chances are that when you were growing up, your needs were not always being met. What you needed was often pushed aside. You ended up learning over time that what you wanted or needed came second and the other person’s needs and wants always came first.

You probably also learned that someone showing you love was showing it through them fixing things for you. There was a pattern there that you probably never saw.

Love equals this person buying you things.

Love equals this person taking you places for fun.