Tips To Keep Your Sense of Self While Dating

Stephanie Lyn Life Coaching
3 min readMar 10, 2023

When starting a new relationship, it is easy to get lost in the excitement and want to spend all your time and energy on your new partner. How many friends have you seen stop going out or only go out as a couple? Now look back at some of your relationships. How many times did you do that? How many hobbies, girls’ night out, or friends did you drop so you could spend time with your new partner?

People can lose themselves in their relationships for a variety of reasons. It could be as simple as the strong energy and feelings that flood you when you’re in a new relationship. It could also be due to codependency.

When you are in a codependent relationship, you will often prioritize your partner’s needs over your own. You rely on your partner to fill you up. You rely on them to feel validated and loved and tie your happiness to their happiness. Recognizing that you are in a codependent relationship or if you lost yourself in your partner might not be as easy as you think.

Some signs that you lost yourself in a partner include:

  • You no longer prioritize yourself or “me” time.
  • Your main focus is your partner, and you need your partner to be happy with you.
  • You are canceling activities and hanging out with friends and family to do what your partner…