Why Didn’t The Narcissist Love Me?

Here are 2 reasons why.

When you are in a relationship with someone who suffers from Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) and the relationship ends, especially if it ends badly, you will ask yourself this question, “Why didn’t the narcissist love me?”. To ask yourself why this person did not love you means that you feel disappointment. Maybe they were not able to be who you wanted them to be. Perhaps they promised you the world only to ghost you or abandon you. They probably came into your life playing the role of your soulmate only to be your worst nightmare.

Regardless of the reason, when you are coming out of a relationship with someone who has Narcissistic Personality Disorder, it is traumatic, heartbreaking and hard to recover from.

Sometimes it is not just our romantic relationships that affect us in this way. It can be the parent who was not able to love you the way you needed as a child. It is the narcissistic mother who always put herself first and the wound she then created in you growing up.

It is the abusive father who was emotionally or physically unavailable. It is the constant behavior you received as a child that created the program you would go off to play as an adult that you are the problem. As the old saying goes “most people in therapy are recovering from the people who should be in…