Why Does the Narcissist Provoke You?

This week’s Youtube video talks about why narcissists want to provoke you.

Narcissists enjoy making other people react in an upsetting way. They want to get you to respond to their actions. Any moment to ruffle your feathers is a victory.

This makes things difficult for you. Do you find yourself constantly arguing with your narcissistic partner? It feels like he is always searching for an argument.

Can you remember a time when you were having a great day and that day was ruined when the narcissist did or said something hurtful? You asked them to not do this, and they instantly reacted with more frustrating behavior.

Why does a narcissist do this?

Narcissists love to taunt other which then causes the victim to get upset. This allows the narcissist to feed off them. Therefore, they are called energy vampires because they are provoking another person to get arise out of them. This then feeds their already fragile ego into making them feel better about themselves because you feel bad. Your hurt gives them pleasure. The ability to make you react makes them feel superior in the relationship.

Narcissists love to make crazy accusations to get you to pay attention to them. This allows them to feel in control because they are controlling your mood.